The Secret To Getting More Compliments Even If You're Shy
Do you have any mottos you live by? One of my favourites is, "Know the rules and bend them in your favour."
I love that it's just a little bit rebellious but not enough to get you into trouble.
It's almost like you're breaking the rules and there's no way you'll get caught.
If you do a quick Google search you'll find 75,700,000 articles about the "rules" of dressing well.
Which is great since there needs to be a set of guidelines that we stick to.
Unfortunately taking this approach also means that you're playing it safe -- boring!
Playing it safe means looking and carrying yourself like a lot of other guys out there.
Nothing about this approach turns heads, stops traffic, or gets you compliments.
At the risk of sounding narcissistic, one of the best morale boosts you'll ever receive is a compliment from a complete stranger.
This could happen while you're sipping coffee at your favourite coffee shop.
Sometimes it happens while you're out with friends hopping from one bar to another on a Saturday night.
And every once in a while it'll happen where you least expect it, when you're having a rough day, and it seems like nothing's going your way.
You'll find that it puts a little spring in your step no matter how brief the interaction might be.
If you're ready to start getting noticed, feel sexy, and turn more heads, keep reading!
You Need To Be Unique Without Being Flashy
Being flashy (or commonly known as peacocking) is for boys.
Drawing attention for the sake of drawing attention is often rooted in insecurity (I know from personal experience).
Nothing about this says, "attractive."
One of my favourite movies is American Gangster.
If you haven't seen it, Denzel Washington is the main character and his best line in the whole movie is, "The loudest one in the room is the weakest one."
In other words, the one who's drawing the most attention feels the need to do so because he feels the need to be validated by others.
It takes confidence to stand out at work, in a crowded bar, or in everyday life.
This is a quality all gentlemen possess.
You'll soon get the hang of it even though it will be uncomfortable at first.
The trick is to stick with it for long enough.
Stay True To You
People can always tell when you're trying to be something you're not.
It's reflected in your body language which is a result of the inner dialogue that's taking place in your mind.
Let's say wearing a leather jacket, Chelsea boots, and longline T's doesn't make sense for your personality but you think it looks appealing.
It's best to stay away.
Just because it's trending or looks great on somebody else, doesn't make it right for you.
Don't let this discourage you from stepping out of your comfort zone.
That's a necessary part of the process and may not feel genuine right off the bat.
You can still push the boundaries while acting authentically.
Just remember to stay true to yourself and keep your unique personality in mind when doing so.
Attention To Detail Is Key
It's the small things that make the biggest differences.
In a world that's so caught up in "hustling" or "no days off" it seems that most people overlook important details in an attempt to make "big moves."
This same principle applies to how we present ourselves.
Understanding the overarching principles of men's style is easy.
Things like proper fit, dress-codes, etc. have become commonplace.
What sets the well-dressed men apart from those who are "good enough" is attention to detail.
Details like what kind of shoes they're wearing (not just any dress shoe or sneaker).
Or details like a subtle pattern on your shirt.
Whatever details you focus on, choose wisely.
The most important takeaway from this article is that you should NEVER dress with the intention of seeking attention.
This is needy -- in other words, it comes across as trying too hard.
I'm encouraging you to step away from what's considered the norm and have the courage to march to the beat of your own drum.
Thank you once again for taking the time to read today's article!
Also, check out the free style guide below while you’re here…